It is human nature to judge. In fact, our ability to make judgments is an important one. It serves to keep us from making mistakes and taking dangerous risks. Of necessity, we make hundreds, if not thousands, of judgments every day. We have to decide what to eat, what to wear, how to drive, how to talk to others, and more. However, when we apply this ability to make judgments to critically judging other people, we can get into trouble. Unless it actually is your job, it’s not your job to judge someone else. Judging others is harmful to our relationships with others and prevents our truly loving them.
Think about someone you have a hard time getting along with. What are the judgments you have of them? Make a list. Be as detailed as you can about what you don’t like about them, what annoys you about them, and what you just can’t tolerate about them.
Now, look at the list and see which of those judgments apply to you as well. Often, the things we are critical about in other people are also things that we are critical about in ourselves. Our judgments are a reflection of ourselves. The message here is that we ought not to be up in other people’s business. We should be minding our own business and focus on being the kind of person we can love.
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